Post-natal depression - still a hidden secret
Posted on 09 May 2018
When women come to see me because they are not coping following the birth of a baby, one of the things I notice is how isolated they are. Although they will have heard of post-natal depression and even about post-natal traumatic stress disorder, they are still overwhelmed by the strength of their emotions and find it very difficult to even speak about it, let alone access the sort of help they need.
I was so pleased to see this brave lady speaking to Sky news, especially as her interview came out during maternal health week. Emily Tredget suffered from post-natal depression after the birth of her son and has now decided to take action in the hope of helping others.
I was so struck by the familiarity of much of what she said. It resonated so much with stories I hear in my hypnotherapy for anxiety clinics in Harley street and in Henley-on-Thames.
I thought it was worthwhile running through some of these stories, as you may be suffering yourself or know someone who is. If you think you are the only one, please let me assure you this is not the case, these issues are widespread and many women have gone through what you are feeling. And you can be helped. Targeted therapies, such as cognitive hypnotherapy, Havening techniques, and eye movement integration therapies, can resolve many of these issues, often in a short time. If any of the following sounds like you, then do not suffer in silence. Get in contact with me today and let’s start sorting this out so you can enjoy this special time with your baby.
Post-natal depression experiences
- Post-natal depression does not necessarily begin at the time of birth. Many women feel okay after the birth and are surprised when, a bit later, they begin to feel anxious and depressed. This happened to Emily, her depression began in the first few weeks and then got worse for the next six months.
- Lack of support and understanding. While there is an increasing understanding of post-natal depression there is still too much of the attitude, ‘everyone is tired with a small baby,’ or ‘everyone gets a bit done, you’ll get over it.’
- Suddenly being at home with a new baby can completely shake your self-image, especially if you have had a busy work-life and a demanding career. As Emily puts it: “I went from being a confident and ambitious woman to a nervous new mum.” This often catches women off-guard. They feel that they have mastered complex and difficult professional circumstances, and often received praise and respect for doing so, and then this disappears. In working with clients, I have often found there is an underlying problem here. Perhaps beneath the confident exterior you have always felt under-confident or as if you were not good enough? Now is the time to address this, your deeply-hold, often hidden beliefs, may be robbing you of your maternal happiness and I can help you address and change these beliefs to something better for you.
- Anxiety which has been untreated can sneak up on you after the birth of the baby. This happened to Emily. She says that she now realises that she was suffering from anxiety during her pregnancy but had not addressed it. Having a new baby can be completely overwhelming and this can be wonderful but sometimes it can reveal problems which you have swept under the carpet, or half coped with for years. If this has happened to you, it can feel very surprising and make you feel out of control, so it should be addressed as quickly as possible.
- Guilt can be a big problem, Emily says that she felt like a failure and that she was letting everyone down, including her little son. Linked to this is that feeling of isolation and even shame, suffering on you own and in silence, which can worsen things. A good therapist can help you build your confidence and self-esteem so you feel able to meet people and engage in social life again.
Wishing Emily the best
Emily is now using her experience to put a helping hand out to other women You can find out more on her new twitter feed. https://twitter.com/EmilyTredget I wish her the very best with her new ventures and congratulate her on opening up these issues.
If you feel you are suffering from depression or anxiety following a birth why not contact me? I offer an initial telephone consultation in which I can outline how cognitive hypnotherapy and other techniques can help you overcome this and solve these issues permanently. Often, just a few sessions are enough to get you back on a happy and fulfilled path in life.
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